Don't Fake The Funk

Is That True, Bub? *SNIKT*

I am a firm believer that honesty must be emphasized in all things, even at the risk of hurting someone's feelings. As long it is mixed with equal parts compassion, and is without malice, honesty is really the only way to go.

That being said, everyone lies, and there are as many reasons for lying as there are people in the world. Some people lie to make themselves look good, some lie to make others look bad, some people lie to hide something. And nearly everyone justifies lying with wanting to spare the feelings of others. That really pisses me off.

It has always pissed me off, but these past few days it's pissed me off even more than usual. I'm not exactly sure why. Maybe I didn't start the year off right. Or maybe it's because I am insulted that people I consider close friends, people I respect, think they could pull one over on me like I'm some stupid hick or something. The more someone does that to me, the less I respect them. Someone told me that people lie to me or tell me half-truths because they're afraid of losing my respect. Ain't that just such an odd, backward way of thinking? You may not think so, but I do. It's, as Mike Tyson once so apty put it, ludicrous!

And yet, it brings up an interesting point. Could I be emphasizing complete honesty too much? I do not believe that. Am I wrong to demand such unswerving loyalty from my friends and family? I think I deserve that. I've been accused, before, of being too righteous. Of course the person who accused me of that was an ex who cheated on me, but anyway... No. No matter how I look at it: logically, emotionally, spiritually, honesty is the best policy.

I know when people tell me half-truths and when people lie to me. I can smell it. Usually, I'm polite enough not to mention when they do. Maybe I should? (Well if I did that, I wouldn't have too many friends.) I just don't understand why anyone would need to lie to me. I'm probably the most laid-back, understanding person anyone knows. I don't hold grudges and I forgive pretty much instantly. I'm pretty thick-skinned too. I can take criticism, and I heal quickly from even the most hurtful comments.

I'm the Wolverine of inter-personal relationships.

Posted by glenn at January 18, 2005 02:33 PM